As I came to pick up my son from one of his classes, the teacher's face looked like it was filled with fear and worry.
"Is everything okay?" I asked.
"Well I just wanted to let you know that your son kissed a girl on the lips today" she said with a strict, harsh voice.
"Phew." I thought. In my head I already thought something horrible happened by the look on her face. I held back my laughter and said that I would have a talk with him. For goodness sake he's three years old. We show affection at home by kissing and hugging each other. That's how I grew up and that's how we're raising our son. I definitely agree that it's not okay to kiss strangers or friends on the lips, but the teacher blew it out of proportion. I mean her face looked like World War III was about to happen.
When we got home we discussed what happened. He told me he tried to kiss her nose because she told him her nose had a "boo boo" and that was his rationale. That's what we do at home. We kiss "boo boos." Obviously I told him he's not allowed to do that to others, only close family members, but it made me realize in what a crazy world we live in. We constantly have to live in fear of expressing ourselves. In my culture we are very affectionate. We even hug our friends and kiss them on the cheek when greeting them or saying bye. There is nothing sexual about it. It's just a way to show you care about someone.
My concern is for the future. What will happen if he randomly kisses a girl on a cheek at school, or tries to hold a girl's hand? A 6 year old was suspended for sexual harassment from school for kissing a girl's hand in 2013 (click here to read the story). Now this is worrisome. The poor kid didn't know what sex even means. How can you accuse him of such a big offense for something so innocent? It's a six year old!
What does punishing a child for kissing mean? Does that teach them that they are not allowed to show their emotions or affection? Does that mean it's not okay to hug or kiss? Do you think that society's perception needs to change? Does there need to be a change in school rules? Or do you think little kids should be punished and accused of sexual harassment?