As a birth worker I tell my clients to toss the BIRTH PLAN. I had one and so did my first few clients. None went according to plan and when you see your client grab onto that thin piece of paper with computer typed letters that she made tons of copies to distribute to all the birth professionals around her, you see her eyes fill with tears as her hopes are washed away with the unpredictability of birth. FREE BIRTH. BIRTH WITH THE FLOW. This is what I teach my clients. You must let your body do what it needs to and turn off your brain (not an easy thing). We as humans are so connected these days with our technology we forget how to disconnect from the world and actually connect with our body. You know the saying “Listen to your body”? Well birth is a good time to do that! The events of birth is hard to predict no matter how many kids you may have, each birth is different and for first time moms creates a lot of anxiety and fear because of the unknown.
1. RECONNECT. During pregnancy find something that you like to do that allows you to reconnect with yourself. It will teach you to listen to your body and its cues.
2. LET GO. Toss the Birth Plan. It’s useless, trust me. I attended many, oh so many births including mine, and none went how it was written on that piece of paper. All you get is disappointment, guilt, and loss of hope if something doesn’t go how you imagined it. Let go to let your body do everything.
3. POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS. Do write “I will give Birth & I will succeed”. Positive affirmations never hurt anyone. You will give birth either way and whatever happens, you will succeed!