So much birth and labor talk around me recently. No I am not talking about those elderly woman who stop me on the street or at the Russian store and ask me when I’m having my next one since my son is turning two soon. I love how some people have no boundaries whatsoever sometimes. I mean honestly, I don’t discuss my sex life, nor would I discuss it with a stranger. So that questions remains unanswered to many, and will remain that way. I am talking about the soft echoes down the hall that are filled with baby registry talks, laughs about who the baby will look like, bickering about what the baby’s name will be, labor plans that never go the right way, and constant grunts of pain. How many women do you know went through pregnancy, labor, or postpartum without any muscular pains? I have been around quite a few pregnant women, was one of them two years back, and all I could hear is this notion of pain and fear filling up their mind and body. It’s depressing. They have this little human life growing in them, and all that is surrounding them is this negative image of labor and birth. I remember when I was about 7 months pregnant, interning in clinic, and all of my patients were mostly elderly grandmas and grandpas. The nicest of them all said I looked like I was having twins. “Are you sure there’s not two in there?” she said pointing to my round belly. “No, I’m sure,” I said while performing a laser treatment on her ankle. Honestly don’t insult someone when they are pregnant and trying to treat your sprained ankle. Anyways, I’m saying she was the nicest of them all because she didn’t have time to tell me a birth horror story like most of my patients did. Seriously what is up with SCARRING pregnant women? It’s not funny! We all wouldn’t be here if birth was so bad, so please stop it. Have you seen other mammals give birth? It’s so natural, so instinct. You just have to turn off your thinking and turn on your “animal.” It’s kind of about just LETTING IT GO. I had such a big issue with that. I like to be in control, so I couldn’t let go. Even though at that point I thought I fully educated myself on pregnancy and knew everything there was to know about birth, I really didn’t. On my way to become a childbirth educator, aside from my doula work, I want to teach women, teach their partners how not to fear birth. When you are educated, you know, you are informed, and you don’t go blind sided into it.
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by Kseniya Gershberg