I think as moms we sometimes tend to loose ourselves. We forget to love ourselves because we are too busy loving others. There is not enough time in the day to work, run errands, and take care of the house. Stay at home mom or working mom, it doesn't matter, there is still not enough time for yourself. In the first 2.5 years of my postpartum life I put myself last. I wanted to make sure that my son comes first. Even though at the moment I thought I was doing the right thing, I was wrong. You know that saying, "love yourself first so you can love everyone else." Its true. You have to. In order to raise a healthy and happy family, the key isn't to put the baby first. The key is to love yourself because then you will be healthy and happy in order to love your child maximally. I am sure there are moms that will disagree with me but trust me its not fun being last. You need to make time for yourself. It can be just an hour a day but you need it, you need it to clear your mind. Motherhood can be stressful and sometimes you just need to do that for yourself. I am still learning to make that time, but I have realized that once the mom is happy the whole family is too. In the short matter of time that I started to make changes, so did my husband. We were able to work out together, eat healthier, and just be overall happier. We made changes to be more actively present whether it was putting our phones away during family meals or just playing on the floor with our son. Healthy and happy moms create healthy and happy families! Here are a few of my ways that I distress and maybe they can work for you too!
1. Working out
-whether it is a walk, going to the gym, joining classes, or working out with other moms working out will help clear your mind and make you happier. Research has shown that when you work out chemicals such as endorphins are released that make you feel happy. A happy and less stressed mom? yes please! Invite your mom friends for support!
2. Play dates
-while the kids have fun, you can have your own fun and socialize with mommy friends. Its true when they say it takes a village to raise a child. You can't do this on your own and you need friends to help. Even talking to someone who understands what it is to be a mom can help.
3. Night Out with Girlfriends
-Girlfriends are an amazing support system, something I didn't realize before. Having left all of my close friends in another city when I moved, and being the first of many friends to give birth naturally I didn't have the right support system. Thankfully I made mommy friends who brought me back to life.
4. Date Night with the Hubs
-No matter what it is going out to the movies or staying at home and watching a movie you need it.
You need that time together
5. Spa & Pampering
-Massages, pedicures/manicures, hair cut just anything to make you feel good
6. Find an activity that makes you yourself again
-loosing my identity when I became a mom happened because I dedicated my whole 24/7 life to my now toddler. Find a hobby that you like and do it. You can't loose yourself and it's also a good way to stay sane. Mine is writing, can you tell;)
What do you do to stay sane on this journey of motherhood? I would love to hear!